Why Won’t You Change

“God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us…when we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son” (Romans 5:8-10 NIV)

We should make it our purpose to accept people as they are. We have a habit of placing conditions on our love – God did not. “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us…when we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son” (Romans 5:8-10 NIV).

How do we get to the place where we love others without requirements? Here are three things that I believe help us to live as Jesus did: First, we should accept people for who they are. “Don’t criticize, and then you won’t be criticized. For others will treat you as you treat them.” (Matthew 7:1-2, TLB). Criticism turns a discussion into a standoff, especially in spiritual matters. Instead, we should celebrate the positive qualities of others. This brings openness. Secondly, I believe we should accept others without comparisons. “If you where just more like so in so.” Don’t fall into the trap of comparing apples with oranges! I can not say it enough.  Accept people as they are. Thirdly, I believe we should accept people without change. People resent you, the more you push for them to change. People most often change once they feel they are accepted for who they are.

For those of you who are trying to decide if you are going to finish this blog because you believe we should challenge people more, we should expect more, demand more, and push people to change, please REMEMBER, change is the Holy Spirit’s job, not ours. It says in His Word “He will convict the world of guilt…sin and righteousness” (John 16:8 NIV). If you desire change for your husband, wife, brother, sister, parent, or friend. The greatest thing you can do is let the Spirit change YOU. Yep, you read that right, you. Other peoples behavior are most often a response to yours.

When you change, the people around you are responding to a different you. Follow Christs example: First, He accepts; then, He reconciles; then, He changes people! (Romans 5:6-8).

REMEMBER it worked for you!

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