Unfriend Yourself

The other day my wife and I sat across the table from one another sharing dinner. We overheard three young ladies sharing their personal unfriending conquests as they laughed and shrugged off the lives those clicks represented. It bothered me to the core.

Social media has created a world where our circles have grown larger than we desire. So in an endeavor to feel attached we set out discovering ways to make them smaller. The innate issue with our solution is that it is about as superficial and detached as the circles we have built. If we don’t like how large our circles have become we just “clean house.”

Interestingly enough it was pride and selfishness that drove us to enlarge our circle to begin with. The incomprehensible rat race to have as many friends or followers as the next guy or gal. I’ve been guilty. You know what I’m talking about. This self indulging pursuit to find value behind the hazy facade of an ever increasing friend list or list of followers on whatever social media comes to mind.

Then at the point that our circle grows to an overwhelming level of impossible connectivity… pride and selfishness then drives us to “clean house.” The funny thing about it is, you’re burning the house your indulgent pursuit built. Now the casualty is not YOU. Absolutely not. Why should you have to suffer with the circle you built? All it takes is a click of a button to delete people in the skillful play of achieving your desired temporal and immediate need.

And there in lies the problem doesn’t it? In life, in church, in ministry, in family, with friends… It’s ultimately more about what I get from life than the flow that is suppose to come from me. (John 7:38)

I know I know there are some people that you should just not have to subject yourself to. I believe these necessary blocks are more rare than not. Let’s face it. We live in an era of sophisticated privacy settings. You can hide anyone who annoys you and control every piece of information that hits your wall or feed. For most of us “cleaning house”, is quite simply what it is. IT’S BURNING THE HOUSE YOU BUILT for the sake of satisfying your current state of comfort. In reality and as a follower of CHRIST JESUS… What’s your comfort got to do with how you love others?

Maybe the first thing we should do is unfriend ourselves. Our old selves that is and let the new creation God has created us to be reign in it’s stead.

Consider these Scriptures:

  • 1 Corinthians 10:24 “Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being.”
  • Philippians 2:4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
  • 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;”
  • Luke 6:32-34 “‘But if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you hope to receive back, what credit is that to you? For even sinners lend to sinners to receive as much back.