1 – Fight for your marriage instead of fighting IN IT.
Don’t spend more time fighting in your marriage than you do fighting for it. Both expend energy. Both take time. Why not invest the energy and time into fighting for it instead of against it?
2 – Pray that God would fix YOU instead of your spouse.
It is impossible to become everything you can be if you are spending all of your time and energy trying to make your spouse all that they can be. (Psalm 139:23-24 is a great prayer to point your heart and your mind in the right direction.)
3 – Ask God to help you see your spouse the way He sees them.
Remember, before your spouse was a husband or wife they were a child of God. How are you treating His child?
4 – Believe the best about your spouse
Love always sees the best and hopes for the best. (I Corinthians 13:4-8) If you are always assuming the worst about the person you are with, then you will always see the worst in the person you are with. Have you ever got a new car and suddenly that is all you can see on the road? Awareness draws things to your attention that was always there. Choose to make yourself AWARE of the good things in your spouse… Trust me, they are there.
5 – Your spouse is not your servant.
So many people look at their spouse as someone who is there to accomplish the tasks of life that they don’t want to concern themselves with. Your spouse is not your servant. Your spouse is actually an avenue by which YOU have been given the opportunity to SERVE. Have you served lately?
6 – DATE NIGHTS ARE IMPORTANT!
Life is busy… right? Well it’s not too busy to continue to build what God brought together. If it is… then shame on you. You most likely had no trouble going on dates before you were married. In fact, you probably worked your whole schedule around them. They are still THAT important!
- The average American spends 50 hours a week at work.
- The average American spends 23 hours a week on the internet.
- The average American spends 34 hours a week watching television.
- The average American spends 5 hours a week in the bathroom.
We are too busy to spend 2 hours a week with the one we PROMISED to spend the rest of our life with. If you don’t have time… maybe you should have married your job, or the internet, or the TV, or the bathroom. We are spending more of our lives with those things than our spouse. Just sayin’.
P.S. It is not a date night if your kids are there. They will live. It is only 2 or 3 hours a week. Just know, this time strengthens you to be the best parent you can be the other 166 hours of the week. It’s ok MOMS!!! 🙂