Over the years of ministry I have seen marriages get into trouble over a plethora of issues. Of those issues 6 of them seem to find there way to the top of every relationship. If you would Indulge me. I would like to share them with you today.
1 – Unrealistic Expectations
No. Marriage is not a perpetual make out session. No. You do not change your partner into who you thought they’d become. No. The ring does not magically entitle you to stuff you didn’t have from when you where dating.
2 – Ignore The Cause For Pause
I have spoken to so many divorced people who have said to me that their divorce could have been averted if only they would have given heed to the pause they felt in their heart. They went on to say they could have saved themselves from a lot of embarrassment if they just would have listened to their heart. We live in a busy world. Trust your heart. If there is cause for pause. Then pause… and examine the flaws.
3 – Unwillingness To Work Through Issues
Married couples have issues. It’s just the way it is. What married couples do when they have issues though, is they talk honestly and openly with one another—they hold true to Ephesians 4:26-29.
For clarification… they talk TO ONE ANOTHER, not ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. They don’t go to their Bible study, accountability partner to bash their spouse… they sit down like a REAL MAN and WOMAN and work it out! CAN I GET AN AMEN?
4 – The Other Person Becomes Unimportant
When work, hobbies or the kids replace the importance of the spouse then something is wrong. It’s not always easy but we have to keep the main thing the main thing.
5 – The Idea That The Grass Is Always Greener
It is never good when a man or a woman begins to look at or fantasize about other men or women . Just know when your looking over at that green grass it’s probably green because it’s over a septic tank.
6 – Money
I have seen more couples divide over money than any other single topic. Peoples love of money will fracture the most solid marriage. Love of money can break apart the most solid foundation. It is scary folks. Don’t make money your God. Make God Your God.